Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. This time of the year brings about a time where we try to do something out of the ordinary for our significant other. It’s also a time of the year where we try to show love through something special.
During this time of the year we begin to focus a little more carefully at our relationships. Although they can be difficult at times, good relationships should be celebrated. Be sure to celebrate your relationship with these helpful Valentine’s Day tips:
Consider a Therapist
Whether you feel as though you need it or not, consider attending a few sessions of couple’s therapy. Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to show your commitment to one another and taking measures to ensure that you’re doing your part in your relationship is a great way to show how invested you truly are.
Remember Who You’re With
Romantic movies are a great way to spend time together, but you shouldn’t align your expectations with them. Try not to get to a point where you mix fantasy with reality. Remembering who you are with and the reasons why you fell in love with them can help you set your expectations when special occasions come about.
Whether you’re going to dinner and a movie, a sunset picnic, the gym, or some quiet time at home; these moments are meant to be shared without getting caught up in a perfect world where unrealistic stories are told.
Since Valentine’s Day is about showing your compassion and appreciation for each other, resist the temptation of the retail driven marketing and decide to make your day something special between you and your one and only.
If you’re looking to do something a little different this year, don’t be afraid to sit down and with each other and contemplate ideas together. Expressing yourself is something you should consider to avoid disappointment as well a providing your partner a chance to do the same. Letting your partner know what you want is sure to set expectations for an evening where you both get to enjoy time together.
Put Yourself in Their Shoes
Often times we can become comfortable only viewing the relationship from one point of view. It is okay to have your personal wants and needs; however, when necessary, try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes for a bit. If you feel tension or pressure from your partner, try to see where they might be coming from. Ask yourself if you’re communicating clearly and that you’re giving as much as you’re taking from the relationship. Be a team player for level playing ground so that you both understand one another.
Although these tips are great items to keep in mind, relationships take work and require both parties to dedicate themselves to each other and the upkeep needed. Be sure to consider help along the way, if needed, by committing to counseling. There are many couples who have committed to online couples counseling from the comfort of their own home so don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone.